Naari- the real 'Shakthi'

Still in the Independence day month so find it relevant remembering the words of the PM. 

The attitude towards women has to change. Couldn't agree more with the PM.

Right from birth rather while in the womb itself everyone around keeps blessing the mother that a boy baby should be born. Inferiority begins right in the womb if the pregnant mother is continuously demanded for a boy baby. 

Women aren't responsible for the gender of the baby. 

  At the age of puberty, we are taunted for reaching the puberty too early or questioned if late. 

Let our body decide when the cycle should start not when the people think it's the right age. 

Even after that, for every period, ayyo you got your periods we can't go anywhere. Don't touch that. Don't go here. Take postpone tablets. 

Why should a woman take tablets to postpone something that's happening so naturally to her? 

Isn't period a part of her body? Discrimination based on periods is a disrespect to her being a woman.

  When a man walks shirtless with hair all over nobody questions but when a woman has little hair around her upper lips or chin or side locks she becomes manly and ugly. 

It was not her choice to grow it but her harmones. 

Our choice of stream, area of study is checked if there are women doing that course or not. 

How many girls had to give up on mechanical engineering etc. because everyone told them it's not a course that girls can do.

Woman have set examples and are proving that they can stand on par with men. They just need a little encouragement and ofcourse the bad mouths shut. 

You have enough wealth why work? You can eat and enjoy throughout your life. 

Should woman be always addressed as someone's daughter, wife, mother etc. 

Doesn't she need her own identity and financial independence?

Broker or the matrimonial agent filters the matches by judging us and will decide whom we might agree or not.

Then families decide depending on the person they think we are and the personality portrayed in 1 or 2 meets by the to-be-groom. 

But we spend the rest of our lives with the choice made by others. 

Spend lavishly on the weddings and then say your life you save it which at times will end up in a divorce. 

Everyday after wedding woman are asked when are they getting pregnant. Isn't it something very personal? 

Have a baby early, they say you're too fast, wait for a few years then you don't have the capacity of bearing a child. Must be some health problem. 

Even when a man has a problem, woman are blamed for not bearing a child. 

Pls ask the men too. 

The type of delivery decides the activeness of the pregnant woman. For making the baby born on an auspicious day, woman are either manipulated or forced to opt for C section which is supposed to be only a saviour during medical emergency. C section it's a major surgery and why should a woman suffer life long and the baby miss out on an opportunity of passing through the natural canal of the mother? It's a loss for both the baby and the mother. Multiple c sections for satisfying everyone's desires could cause a rupture in the uterus of the mother. This is so dangerous. 

Let the mother's body decide the type of delivery. Doctors are always there to listen and respect ones decision. 

Career after baby is a dream. Fathers can go out, eat anything, meet people, fulfill all their dreams and most importantly sleep peacefully. Fathers are never asked to even change diapers. They say it's a dirty job and I'm not used to it. 

Were mothers trained before having babies? Were they cleaning toilets of all houses before bearing a child? 

How many of us get a comfortable environment to breast feed? At public places? 

If the baby falls, blame the mother. 

If the baby falls sick, blame the mother. 

Why have Copper T or other foreign objects inside a woman's body when a man can use protection? For a man's laziness why should a woman's body be harmed?It's so easy for a man to ask a woman to use emergency contraceptive. It's for emergency not a daily vitamin supplement.  Blame the woman again for her getting pregnant? 

Woman are easy targets for everyone. 

There are protests if there are reservations for woman.  We want woman for all the odd jobs, to take care of the house, work outside but not RULE. 

Is it that the woman are looked down upon or is there a sense of fear that they can handle things like men or better than them? 

How many of us women have the real freedom to choose what we want to do? 

This month celebrating nation's Independence let's celebrate 'Naari' and her 'Shakthi'

Let's uplift and empower. 

SHE is life...

                                          

“ Mumma, I’m coming in 130 days”, said the pregnancy app on her phone reminding her of the number of days left to complete 40 weeks.

Counting days to see her little one inside and waiting to pamper it with all that she could. She felt her baby move and kick. She happily shared this news of the baby movements with the people around her. With the baby bump shape, physical changes and symptoms came those 100s of myths and predictions of baby gender.

“We’re very sure, it’s gonna be a boy looking, at you”, said her relatives. With the predictions, she started building her expectations and dreaming about a baby boy. She had decided on the name and got clothes as the days were nearing for her labour. With little consciousness at the labour room, she heard the doctor say, “It’s a GIRL”.

She cried and everyone who heard it were disappointed. Nobody showed interest in even seeing the baby. The baby had nobody to show her love and warmth besides her mother. It grew and while growing up slowly started developing inferiority complex. Little did they know, that the baby could hear and feel the emotions of the mother and the soul within kept feeling rejected, neglected each time. They predicted the gender and created dreams about it. The baby felt unworthy inside and this had made it develop inferiority complex and low confidence.

Therefore, the whole purpose of having an exclusive day for Girl child will be served only when the expectant mother never lets the words of inequality reach the ears of the child and when she whole-heartedly fights for the rights of her child. After all only a woman should understand another woman. The least you could do for a mentally healthy baby is to never predict and welcome a baby of any gender with open arms and same love and warmth to a baby with any gender.

We have seen over the years women take responsible and highly dignified positions and perform tasks equally risky like a man.

There is no less, there is no more.

A lot of girls take better care of their parents than their sons and earn much more than what their son would have.

Woman is the only one who can carry another life. If there is no woman, there is no life. A world without daughter is as impossible as a world with water.

From treating equally inside the womb, treating a brother and a sister equal, husband and wife equal, hero and heroine equal, girl boss equal to others is all where the thought begins from.

Sharing this thought, I urge every expectant mothers and mothers with girl children to treat them forever like a princess and queen cuz they are one.

No matter who supports you or not in the family, the child needs its parents to accept it whole heartedly and receive all the encouragement like how a boy would receive.

We need no more “Vamshodhaaraka” sons who just exist and continue the generations of his family but we need more children, specifically a daughter who could contribute to the society and achieve for all generations to remember.

We need no woman who will shut up and tolerate the words of the society when she is insulted for not working while is creating a responsible generation for the future. A man working outside doesn’t make him any great than a woman who instills values to her children, feeds the family and makes a home a better place to live.

We need a woman, whether working or not to be the creator of quality future generation.

Being a woman, I would be more than happy to have a girl child or children.

I am a Desh Ki Beti and support every Desh ki Beti being born in this Punyabhoomi where woman are worshipped in different forms and names like Saraswathi, Lakshmi, Durga, Ganga etc.

Say “No’ to prenatal gender determination and spread equality and love to every being.

No better day to start re-blogging. With every new phase of life for a woman she at times needs time to revive. It is never too late to revive.

A Woman is a life-giver. SHE is life.

 

 #girlchildday#deshkibeti

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who am I ? Where do I belong ?

"Mrs.", She would be soon addressed A constant dilemma about how much more and how little to open up Fear of being accepted Fear of criticisms Resistance to change her dressing Could she ask for the extra piece of her favorite chocolate cake? Would her new parents love her as much as her biological parents? Would his siblings play cards the same way with her? Would his neice and nephew kiss her the same way they kissed their uncle? Would he be patient enough to let her accomplish her career goals before her societal responsibilities? Would he laugh with her friends? Would she ever get a chance to go back to the beach with her girlfriends ? Would there be a secret love letter inside her bag? What if his favorite dish she learnt for him had sugar instead of Salt? Ah, those little black dresses! Would she ever wear them again?" " It's important for a woman to be financially independent", she remembered Priyanka Chopra's words , and asked herself if there would be a need to ask him money. Money to even remove the extra hair growth around her eyes. " Don't spend money unnecessarily", her mother shouted from the kitchen. Should she spend cuz it was wedding that she wanted only once in her life or should she not spend, cuz it was not necessary? Was there a need for her to shed those extra pounds to be not made fun of it the new family? What if she wouldn't be allowed to go to her mother's house when she missed her? Would they be kind enough to thank her family for organising the wedding to the best of their capability? Would they taunt her for not wearing extra grams of glittery metal or for not gifting him stones from Russia? Would she be humiliated for not giving the saree his tenth aunt wanted? Was it right to have those intimate moments against her wish just because he demanded for it? Would her career dreams be destroyed due to the unexpected new life between them? Would he buy her favorite chat and ice cream just the way her dad got her? Could she just bump into the kitchen and grab food when she was hungry just the way she did for a quarter century? Was there a need to understand all his likes and dislikes in her transition phase? Was it necessary to change her surname as that was the only way to be identified as her Daddy's princess? Would she be asked to tweak her natural process of what made her a woman just to have fun? What should've been more important to her? Spending time in understanding him who would be for the rest of her life or so spending time with her mom with whom she wouldn't be so spending time like that ever again? Would she be criticized for wearing her favorite peach dress? Would she be allowed to talk to her girls over the phone late night? Would it be a permanent good bye to the guys in her friends list? All that she kept asking herself was"Who am I?, Where do I belong?"

First impression about my last love ❤️

While I was thinking about the fault in my star for not having anyone on Valentine's day, found a prince in the same month who promised to celebrate henceforth for life. A man who gave me hopes that good men exist A man who is more romantic and emotional than I ever was A man who shares his deepest secret and doesn't ever judge me knowing mine A man who values me more than anybody else and putting me on priority all the time A man who doesn't just say I love you but means every word of it A man who trusts me just the way I deserved A man for whom I could give up on anybody A man who loves my family like his own A man who is ambitious and gives me every reason to look upto him A man who is equally flawed like me A man who understands and makes effort to understand every pain in me A man with no ego A man who takes pride in introducing me to his world A man who was an answer to every prayer A man who made me forget all the tears shed in the past A man who hails from a family, where 'in laws' are just words for law Found a Sister who always make the efforts to fit in the position of my real sister Found a Mother who takes my side all the time in every matter Found a Father who supports me and filled in the existing gap Everyone, everything so real Well, the fault wasn't in my stars but with those that missed me. My man reminds me this every second making me special being the only one who will ever rule my kingdom of love till my last breath. This, you might think might change over the years, But they have given me a forever within the numbered days creating a little infinity already. Om tat sat

Om Tat Sat

Hello reader!!
Welcome to my new blog called "Little Nuances of Life". Since it's my first post from this blog, I would like to start from the words of the Lord,"OM TAT SAT".